parent teacher conference

Last thursday was parent teacher conference night.
Daughter is struggling in her English class. No big surprise. but always gut wrenching because she tries so hard. she devotes more time and effort to getting a C than my sons did to getting an A.
English teacher says to me "your daughters grade is a 59%. she doesn't look like a 59% type person." what the fuck does that mean? what does a 59% student look like? i listened politely as she rambled on, waiting for my turn to speak, question, and to to give her some insight........but before i knew it she was standing and walking toward the door, me following behind like a little puppy, and then being ushered out the door. I walked up the hall to another of daughters classes wondering what the hell just happened?I just left what i think is daughters most important class without being given the opportunity to speak.
I talked to 3 of daughters other teachers all the while wondering how it is I ended up leaving the english teacher when i had things i needed to say and ask. I was pissed at myself for not making her listen to me and pissed at her teacher for not knowing better.I debated in my head whether or not I should go back to her room. I beat myself up for feeling like a passive pansey.........and then I thought fuck her if she doesn't like it, but i'm going back to her class and say what i have to say. So I went back to her room. I watched from the doorway as she spoke to other parents. She did all of the talking. And as she was wrapping up what SHE had to say to each parent, she'd stand, and then walk to the door. The parents would follow, and then be told good-bye.
So I go back in her room prepared to ask questions, make comments and make suggestions. mostly I wanted to clue her in on those things that will help her help my daughter to learn. Daughters brain is wired so that she learns in a way thats different from how you or I might learn. She's very intelligent. She just doesn't learn in the same way we do. Over the years we've learned what works and what doesn't work for her. But we need the cooperation of her teachers. I wanted to fill her teacher in because how else will she know how to help? She immediately interrupted me and began rambling.I was thinking what the hell is wrong with this woman? All I wanted was 5 minutes of her time. She'd already robbed me of more than that...... As she was near the wrap up of her latest ramble she stood. I stood and then she began walking towards the door. I thought this woman is unbelieveable. This time I did not follow. I took a couple steps in the opposite direction. She looked a little confused, and then began another ramble. As she spoke I took a few more steps away from her and away from the door. she followed. When i had her behind her desk I walked back to the chair I'd been sitting in earlier and I sat......and waited for her to sit. .............and from there i was able to clue the teacher in on those things that will help her to help my daughter have a successful year. I don't think she really heard what i said....she's young and probably thinks there's one way to do things.........her way.....and it probably does work for most students......and she probably figures the other students, the ones it doesn't work for, are just bad kids from bad families who don't care.
so daughter and i are probably going to have to come up with another game plan.