sunday

The child support hearing for last week was canceled.
It was rescheduled.
I just want it over.
I'm not good at dealing with this type of stuff.

Daughter and I got up early yesterday and went to have our hair
washed, conditioned, cut/styled............and had our eyebrows waxed. She's been jogging 5 days a week trying to lose a little weight. She's feeling better about herself, and so I wanted to do something to help her feel even better.....and to pamper her a little for all her hard work. It was fun. :O)

After the beauty shop we went shopping.
We both got new purses, and sun glasses.........and then
Daughter bought a bikini.............. I bought some shirts and a couple bras.
After shopping we went out for lunch, and chit chatted.
It was a great spending time one on one with daughter. She's a pretty neat person.

I went to Lowes last week and ordered a new front door and new front storm door.
I've needed to replace the present one since the day I bought the house. It's painted over a hundred times, you need a butter knife to work the lock........the frame is loose......it's dented, and out and out ugly! Can't wait for it to go!
SO queer as it sounds, I'm excited about the new door..........and I'm anxious to get it installed.

Daughter and I had a meeting at her school lastweek with the guidance counselor, english teacher, and the coordinator of the special ed. program.
the meeting was to discuss whether or not to test daughter for learning disabilities.
I tired to have her tested at childrens hospital on my own. i was tired of dealing with the school, and jumping through their hoops to no avail. but the hospital no longer tests children over the age of 15. so once again i found myself at the schools mercy.
the meeting was horrible to say the least.
the guidance counselor was unprofessional, inappropriate, and down right cruel i think.
at one point she says to daughter "how will you feel if we test you and we find no learning disability? TELL ME HOW YOU WILL FEEL! you will feel like you must just be dumb. BECAUSE IF YOU DON'T HAVE A LEARNING DISABILITY THEN IT MUST BE THAT YOU'RE DUMB! RIGHT?! and what if we do find a disability, emily? how will you feel then? YOU WILL BE LABELED DISABLEDFOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE AND YOU WILL BE SENT TO THE SPECIAL ED. CLASSES WHeThER YOU WANT TO GO OR NOT. YOU WONT HAVE A CHOICE. YOU WILL GO! how will you feel about that?!"
Daughter burst in to tears.
We were also told that the reason they don't like to test children is because it "takes a lot of our time and it's not what we're about, not what we do."
So that was a part of what happened at the meeting.
and it was decided that we would have to jump through a few more hoops and then they'd revisit the possibility of testing daughter.
I however decided I would get a lawyer and force them to test her...................and I would file a complaint against the guidance counselor with the board of education.
I felt sad for my daughter. But we really talked after the meeting......and she was ok. She wasn't feeling defeated. (God bless her)
The morning after the meeting I get a call at work from the guidance counselor. She says to me "I felt bad that Emily was crying yesterday so I took her file home with me and REALLY looked at it. I've decided to proceed with testing. Emily is here in my office and she'd like to talk to you."What I heard her say was (I worried all night about my mean inappropriate behavior at the meeting. I'm afraid I might be in trouble. I'm going to test your daughter. Maybe that decision will passify you. Maybe you won't report me if I give you what you're asking for.)
SO daughter gets on the phone and the GC leaves her alone in the office to talk to me. daughter tells me the gc called her to her office to ask her what her mother thought of the meeting. emily tells her that we both thought she was rude, and inappropriate................and that she lied about emily having to be in the special ed classes if it's found that she has a learning disability.

While at the meeting I wanted to jump across the desk and choke the GC. But...............I was trying to keep my side of it clean. I was also planning in my head my day in court. I didn't want anyone to testify that I was being loud, disruptive or rude. I wanted to be credible...........i wake in the morning still playing over in my head the GC's behavior at the meeting..... i'm really not sure what to do.